by Amber (California)
Even before I was married, I always knew that if my birth control failed I would get an abortion. Before getting married, my beau and I had all the important talks, including the children talk. We don’t plan on having children and in no way want any right now. So, when I got pregnant (during my honeymoon no less) I knew exactly what I wanted to do. People are amazed at “how easy” it was for me to do. I guess you could say it was easy but only because I had enough sense to make the decision long before the situation arose.
I come from a rich family who would have helped me but to me, that is not what parenting is about. The big reason I don’t want children right now is because at this point in my life I am not capable of being the parent that I want to be. I am working towards a second BS and my Masters. I am getting my second BS in Geology and my Masters is in Ecology and Evolutionary Biology. I do not have the time to raise a child properly. I want to be an active parent and I just could not do that right now in my life.
So, I called Planned Parenthood and they made an appointment for me the next day with one of their affiliates. Since I was only at 5 weeks I opted to take RU-486 (the abortion pill). I am not comfortable with doctors poking and probing at me, so even though it is more expensive, I took the pill so I could go home. I was in a lot of pain for about an hour but then it was over.
My experience at Planned Parenthood was wonderful. They knew exactly what they were doing and it made everything run so smooth. They were kind and in no way judgmental. When they were asking me for my information (do you smoke, do you drink and how much, etc) they asked if I smoked pot. I do, so I told them yes (because I am not going to lie to my doctor) and they didn’t even bat an eyelid. I felt so comfortable with them. My nurse was extremely polite and comfortable which made me feel at ease. I usually get very nervous whenever I go to a gynecologist (because of the poking and probing) but this lady made me feel so safe there.
Afterward, they gave me instructions on how to complete the medication at home as well as a prescription. I saw them two weeks later for a check up and everything was fine.
To conclude, I in no way regret my decision and I would do it again. I have done things since then that I would not have been able to do if I had kept the pregnancy. 5 months after my abortion I was able to go continue my work in Namibia doing conservation and rehab and working on my dissertation. That would never had been possible if I had not terminated the pregnancy.