Didn’t have any bleeding or cramps, just the intense feeling of tiredness

by Anonymous

I had an abortion my freshman year of college. It was NOT expected and I knew my family would freak out and it’s father was not the man that was willing to help out. I knew I could not give this child everything it needed, not even love, because the simple fact that he was not wanted made me not want to bring it to this world. Don’t get me wrong, I felt connected to it and I loved it, and because of that simple reason, I knew that it would not be right to bring it into a world of misery where it would suffer bc of our carelessness to not use protection.

I was 14 weeks along when I had the procedure done, meaning I didn’t take pills, I had to get the surgical abortion done. I sat in that room, while the doctor performed another abortion in another room and the girl was screaming her ass off. Scared the hell out of me! The doctor finally came in the room, explained that he was going to suck the fetus out of me with this vacuum-sstyle thing and that would be it. The first time he tried, it felt like a sharp pain, and I said I couldn’t go on, and he said if I wanted to be sedated I had to go to a hospital. So I made him go again and held my pain. Afterwards he sent me to this room with all these other women who had had abortions, and the nurse told me I would bleed heavily and gave me pain med prescriptions and let me leave.

I didn’t have ANY bleeding or cramps, just the intense feeling of tiredness. So I slept for the rest of the day. Thank God for my best friend for getting me through that.

I am now 21 and graduating from college in May. I am pregnant, but this time, my partner and I both wanted it and can provide for her what I couldnt provide for my first pregnancy. I am happy, because I would never have been where I am at now, but it took me awhile to accept it.

If you feel like you need to talk, talk. It’s a great way to not feel regret.

I had an abortion my freshmen year of college. It was NOT expected and I knew my family would freak out and it’s father was not the man that was willing to help out. I knew I could not give this child everything it needed, not even love, because the simple fact that he was not wanted made me not want to bring it to this world. Don’t get me wrong, I felt connected to it and I loved it, and because of that simple reason, I knew that it would not be right to bring it into a world of misery where it would suffer bc of our carelessness to not use protection.
I was 14 weeks along when I had the procedure done, meaning I didn’t take pills, I had to get the surgical abortion done. I sat in that room, while the doctor performed another abortion in another room and the girl was screaming her ass off. Scared the hell out of me! The doctor finally came in the room, explained that he was going to suck the fetus out of me with this vacuum-sstyle thing and that would be it. The first time he tried, it felt like a sharp pain, and I said I couldn’t go on, and he said if I wanted to be sedated I had to go to a hospital. So I made him go again and held my pain. Afterwards he sent me to this room with all these other women who had had abortions, and the nurse told me I would bleed heavily and gave me pain med prescriptions and let me leave.
I didn’t have ANY bleeding or cramps, just the intense feeling of tiredness. So I slept for the rest of the day. Thank God for my best friend for getting me through that.
I am now 21 and graduating from college in May. I am pregnant, but this time, my partner and I both wanted it and can provide for her what I couldnt provide for my first pregnancy. I am happy, bc I would never have been where I am at now, but it took me awhile to accept it.
If you feel like you need to talk, talk. It’s a great way to not feel regret.
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My abortion gave me my life back

by M. (Washington)

I was the “good girl” who had good grades, played several sports, sang in choir, did volunteer work. I might have been the last person anyone would have suspected would get pregnant.
I got pregnant by my high school boyfriend, who was the first person I had sex with. Based on the dates of my pregnancy, it was possibly even the first time I had sex. We got caught up in the heat of the moment and didn’t use any protection.

I was 17 years old and scared to death when I missed my period. So scared in fact that I didn’t tell anyone– not my boyfriend, my best friend, my school counselor, or my parents. I kept hoping against all hope it would just all go away. In fact, I never even took a home pregnancy test because I knew I wouldn’t be able to face the truth.

That spring I played soccer and went to school just like everything was normal, but I could feel my life crashing down around me. I contemplated suicide. I considered running away. I wondered if I could do something to end the pregnancy on my own.

Finally after the end of the school year I broke down and told my father. If you are reading this and have a good relationship with your parents like I did and do, please don’t wait like I did. Any disappointment he felt– what had me so worried– made way for concern and love for me. I really had nothing to fear from telling him. My mom was disappointed too, but supportive. We knew it wouldn’t be right for me to continue the pregnancy.

I had to have a more complicated procedure for later pregnancies called a dilation and extraction. It took two days. They injected the amniotic fluid with saline solution, which killed the fetus. I had laminaria placed to dilate my cervix, then a day later they sedated me. I have no memory of what happened, but I had to push the baby out.

It doesn’t sound pretty and I didn’t feel glad that it had to happen, but that abortion saved my life. I might have ended up killing myself or doing something else really stupid.

Fourteen years later I am 31 years old, have a master’s degree, am married, and a mother– this time to a planned and welcomed baby girl who is now six weeks old. I have no doubt I would have none of this had I been forced to carry my first pregnancy to term.

My abortion gave me my life back– the life I was intended to have. I regret the decisions that led me to get pregnant in high school, but I will never regret having an abortion.

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Women choose abortion for many reasons

by http://www.positive.org/

women choose abortion for many reasons:

  • we can’t handle having a baby right now
  • our parents would be angry or disappointed; we might get kicked out of the house
  • having a baby might screw up finishing high school, going to college, or having a career
  • the father is not going to help
  • we don’t have the money to take care of a baby
  • having a baby isn’t healthy for us or the baby
  • we may have gotten pregnant by rape or incest

Any reason we have for choosing abortion is a good reason. These are our bodies and our lives. No one has the right to force us to have a baby, or to punish us for liking sex.

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Felt comfortable and safe at Planned Parenthood

by Amber (California)

Even before I was married, I always knew that if my birth control failed I would get an abortion. Before getting married, my beau and I had all the important talks, including the children talk. We don’t plan on having children and in no way want any right now. So, when I got pregnant (during my honeymoon no less) I knew exactly what I wanted to do. People are amazed at “how easy” it was for me to do. I guess you could say it was easy but only because I had enough sense to make the decision long before the situation arose.

I come from a rich family who would have helped me but to me, that is not what parenting is about. The big reason I don’t want children right now is because at this point in my life I am not capable of being the parent that I want to be. I am working towards a second BS and my Masters. I am getting my second BS in Geology and my Masters is in Ecology and Evolutionary Biology. I do not have the time to raise a child properly. I want to be an active parent and I just could not do that right now in my life.

So, I called Planned Parenthood and they made an appointment for me the next day with one of their affiliates. Since I was only at 5 weeks I opted to take RU-486 (the abortion pill). I am not comfortable with doctors poking and probing at me, so even though it is more expensive, I took the pill so I could go home. I was in a lot of pain for about an hour but then it was over.

My experience at Planned Parenthood was wonderful. They knew exactly what they were doing and it made everything run so smooth. They were kind and in no way judgmental. When they were asking me for my information (do you smoke, do you drink and how much, etc) they asked if I smoked pot. I do, so I told them yes (because I am not going to lie to my doctor) and they didn’t even bat an eyelid. I felt so comfortable with them. My nurse was extremely polite and comfortable which made me feel at ease. I usually get very nervous whenever I go to a gynecologist (because of the poking and probing) but this lady made me feel so safe there.

Afterward, they gave me instructions on how to complete the medication at home as well as a prescription. I saw them two weeks later for a check up and everything was fine.

To conclude, I in no way regret my decision and I would do it again. I have done things since then that I would not have been able to do if I had kept the pregnancy. 5 months after my abortion I was able to go continue my work in Namibia doing conservation and rehab and working on my dissertation. That would never had been possible if I had not terminated the pregnancy.

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A single mishap was NOT going to ruin my life

by A (Ohio)

Mine was the best decision I have made in years! I have always been careful with my birth control but I just so happened to get food poisoning which brought up my pills along with everything else that was in my system.

The day before and the day before that I had slept with two separate exes so I couldn’t even be sure who the father was. But one was an unemployed weed dealer and the other already had more than one baby mama. I was NOT going to be able to count on help from either of them and I knew I could not support myself and a child on my own income nor would it be right to raise a child in my teeny tiny two room apartment. I come from a poorer family as well and would not have been able to count on help from anyone besides myself.

I went to a clinic in Cleveland just before 6 weeks along. The staff was amazing, I did not feel a bit uncomfortable in their waiting rooms and the procedure wasn’t very painful at all. I opted out of anesthetics and it was really just a couple minutes of heavy cramping — I was too distracted by my conversation with the doctor and nurses to really pay attention.

I could be eight months pregnant right now. I cannot even express how deliriously happy I am that I am not. A single mishap was NOT going to ruin my life!

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